Hey,
Think about the last time you cooked a steak.
You get it to 125 degrees Fahrenheit. You let it rest for a few minutes. Done. The whole thing takes maybe 15 minutes if you're being generous with the sear.
Now think about a brisket.
Same kitchen. Same person doing the cooking. But you're not rushing that thing to 135 and calling it a day. No. A brisket needs 10, 12, sometimes 14 hours at low heat. Then you wrap it. Then you rest it for another several hours or a whole day in my case. That’s my secret. A story for another day. You don't argue with a brisket. You just give it what it needs and you wait.
And here's the thing. Nobody finds that confusing. Nobody looks at a brisket and thinks, why can't you just be a steak? We understand that different cuts of meat, different proteins, different applications, they all need to be handled differently. We read what we're working with and we adjust.
We do this in the kitchen without even thinking about it.
Chicken breast? Different approach. Ribs? Different approach. Lamb? Different approach.
We've internalized this idea that the thing in front of us gets to tell us something about how it wants to be treated. And we listen.
So why do so many of us walk up to a coffee and completely forget all of that?
The Coffee That Wouldn't Cooperate
I had a coffee a few weeks back that was driving me absolutely crazy.
Ethiopian white honey, roasted medium but playing closer to a light roast. On paper, this thing should have been spectacular. Ethiopian coffees at this roast level usually bring fruit, brightness, something lively and interesting.
Should have. But it wasn't.
The flavors were flat. Just kind of sitting there. Not bad exactly, just not doing anything worth paying attention to.
So I did what I always do. I went to work.
Different grind sizes. Slow pours, fast pours. Different filters. I tried everything in my routine playbook to get this coffee to cooperate. Two pours, 30 second bloom, done in under two and a half minutes. That's my system. That's what works.
And with this coffee? It just kept getting worse.
The one thing I kept noticing, and I almost wrote it off as a problem to be fixed, was the drawdown. Extremely slow. Like, way slower than what I'm used to. My first instinct was to fight it. Coarser grind. Faster filter. Speed this thing up and get it back into my window.
It got worse every time I did that.
What White Honey Actually Means
Here's where it gets interesting. White honey isn't just a fancy name. It's a processing method, meaning how the coffee cherry was handled after it was picked off the tree.
When coffee is processed, farmers have choices about how much of the fruit to leave on the bean while it dries. Washed coffees (also called wet process) strip everything off. Natural process coffees dry with the whole fruit intact. Honey process is in between, and white honey is on the lighter end of that spectrum, leaving a small amount of the sticky fruit layer (called mucilage) still clinging to the bean.
That residual mucilage changes things. It affects how the coffee behaves during roasting and, it turns out, how it behaves when you're brewing it. More mucilage can mean a slower, stickier drawdown. The coffee absorbs water differently. It takes more time.
I knew this, somewhere in the back of my head. And I was still fighting it.
Because my routine said two and a half minutes. And so two and a half minutes is what I was going to get.
What Happened When I Stopped Arguing
At some point I just got tired of fighting it and decided to do something a little crazy.
I stacked a metal filter inside a Hario V60 slow paper filter. Double filtration. Then I ground the coffee finer than I normally would, fine enough that under normal circumstances I'd expect a bitter, over-extracted mess. And I just let it go.
That brew took about five minutes. Five minutes. I'm usually done in two.
I was nervous. And then I tasted it.
More juicy. More lively. Something I actually wanted to keep drinking. The acidity came through properly, the sweetness showed up, the chocolate notes that were hiding the whole time finally had room to exist.
The coffee was good the whole time. I was just brewing it wrong.
Not wrong in some universal sense. Wrong for this coffee. I was cooking the brisket like it was a steak.
The Routine That Got You Here Can Also Hold You Back
Here's what I had to sit with after that.
My routine exists for a reason. It's built from years of reps, hundreds of cups, a lot of trial and error. Nine times out of ten it gets me to a good place fast. And that's genuinely valuable.
But somewhere along the way the routine stopped being a tool and started being the boss. Instead of letting the coffee tell me what it needed, I was forcing the coffee into my system and getting frustrated when it pushed back.
The slow drawdown wasn't a problem to be solved. It was the coffee talking. Telling me something about what it was and what it needed.
I just wasn't listening.
And this isn't just a coffee thing. I think we do this everywhere. We get good at something, we build a system that works, and then we apply that system without paying attention to whether the situation actually calls for it. We stop reading what's in front of us.
The person who's great at direct communication uses it even when a situation needs something slower and more careful. The cook with a signature dish applies their techniques even when the ingredient is asking for something completely different. The coffee person with a dialed-in routine runs the same program on every single bag regardless of origin, processing, or roast level.
We forget to read the brisket.
What I'm Actually Taking Away From This
Stay observant. That's it. That's the whole thing.
When something isn't working, before you assume your approach is right and the coffee is wrong, stop and look at what's actually happening. Is there a slow drawdown? What's the roast level? What's the processing method? Is this coffee telling you something you're not hearing because you're too locked into what you already know?
Let the coffee be the star. Give it what it's asking for, not what your routine says it should want.
Because sometimes, when you stop arguing and just give something the time and conditions it needs, it surprises you completely.
That five minute brew was one of the better cups I've had recently. And it broke every rule in my playbook.
Your Turn
I want to hear from you on this one.
What's something you've been forcing into a routine that maybe needed a completely different approach? Doesn't have to be coffee. Could be anything. Cooking, work, a relationship, a creative project.
Where have you been cooking the brisket like a steak?
Hit reply and tell me. I read everything.
Oke
"Just keep reading. I've got you."

Here's to the journey. Yours and mine.
